[VIDEO] Duncan Nugget® #40: For the Haters and the Doubters

Here are a hater…there a hater…everywhere a hater, hater…

Grrr…

They are everywhere aren’t they?!

Yes, they are.

I’m fired up because a good friend of mine on Facebook is all distraught right now. He feels like everybody is hating on him. This is what I explained to him:

For some reason the more successful you become, the more haters you have. I don’t know why it works like that, but it does.

Even though you already know that people’s opinions shouldn’t really matter, when someone is constantly shooting down your dreams and hating on you, that can be painful and challenging but…

Regardless of what anyone—especially haters and doubters—thinks about you, realize that…

A person’s definition of you does not define you.

HINT: You shouldn’t!

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(Adapted from My Success Journal for Young People)

[VIDEO] Duncan Nugget® #307: Devastated, But Not Defeated

I was recently saw someone’s status on Facebook: “Feeling a little bit defeated.”

I immediately responded with Duncan Nugget #307:

You are too strong to be defeated. Are you experiencing a temporary setback? Maybe. Can you feel the frustration? Sure.

But defeated? Never.

Life may leave you devastated, but you are never defeated.

Million-Dollar Question:
Isn’t it time for a comeback?

[VIDEO] Duncan Nugget® #223: Under Your Control?

After a setback, many people spend too much time agonizing over things they have little or no control over. So, when you are preparing for your next opportunity, do a little inventory.

Identify what is and isn’t under your control.

Make a list of everything that must happen in order for your opportunity to be a successful endeavor. Next, label each item on your list as “under your control” or “not under your control.”

Now, take action on what’s under your control.

For example, being well prepared for an interview is under your control. Being the most qualified and experienced person for the job isn’t under your control. Chances are, you cannot do anything about who else is being interviewed for the position.

WARNING: Be careful of passing the buck or playing the blame game.

[VIDEO] Duncan Nugget® #221: Never Convict An Innocent Person

Setbacks and failure can leave a person wallowing in the mud of past misery. Unless you are a cute, little piggy you have no business splashing around in the mud!

Humans are the only creatures on this planet that willingly live the same misery over and over again.

You imagine it. You experience it. You remember it.

Too many people continuously convict themselves for past mistakes and mishaps. It makes no sense to constantly punish yourself in the present for an honest mistake you made in the past

“I made an honest mistake. Now I know better, so I’ll do better.”

If that statement is true for you, then you need to give yourself a pardon. Otherwise, you’re convicting the new and improved you (an innocent person) for something that the old you did.

Never convict an innocent person.

Blame It On Everybody, Somebody, Anybody, And Nobody

Someone recently reminded me about this story. You’ve probably read it before because it’s easy to find. Nevertheless, it’s a cool little story about blame.

[VIDEO] Duncan Nugget® #222: New Opportunities. Old Wounds.

New opportunities heal old wounds.

Has anyone you ever known been in a relationship that ended on a sour note?

Perhaps the person was a little depressed; not really doing anything, just sitting around eating, watching TV, or listening to sad love songs and nursing his or her wounds. Finally, someone tells that person that he or she needs to get out of the house and go meet somebody new.

And just like that, life starts to become fun again.

It works the same way with temporary setbacks. So, when you experience a letdown, find a new opportunity (or an old one that you’ve been blowing off)  to pursue as soon as possible.

[VIDEO] Duncan Nugget® #108: Smarter than the Average Bear

“I’m smarter than the average bear!”

For weeks, every since he saw the Yogi Bear movie, my son, Mekhi, has been running around saying that quote. It makes him LOL. And he’s making me LOL. But he also brought to mind a nugget I wrote a few years ago:

You can’t build an extraordinary life with ordinary effort.

Think about it.

Yogi was talking about more than brains. He was talking about effort. In order to get what he wanted, Yogi put in waaaaay more effort than your average bear.

In order to have more than the average bear…uh…person has, you must DO more than the average person does. (But keep it legal!)

High achievement and lasting fulfillment are the results of extraordinary effort. So, be smart enough and disciplined enough to put forth extraordinary effort. The pay-off is huge.

Million-Dollar Question:
Are you smarter than the average bear?