[VIDEO] Duncan Nugget® #40: For the Haters and the Doubters

Here are a hater…there a hater…everywhere a hater, hater…

Grrr…

They are everywhere aren’t they?!

Yes, they are.

I’m fired up because a good friend of mine on Facebook is all distraught right now. He feels like everybody is hating on him. This is what I explained to him:

For some reason the more successful you become, the more haters you have. I don’t know why it works like that, but it does.

Even though you already know that people’s opinions shouldn’t really matter, when someone is constantly shooting down your dreams and hating on you, that can be painful and challenging but…

Regardless of what anyone—especially haters and doubters—thinks about you, realize that…

A person’s definition of you does not define you.

HINT: You shouldn’t!

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(Adapted from My Success Journal for Young People)

[VIDEO] Duncan Nugget® #303: Impact

My son, Mekhi, is fascinated with dinosaurs. Recently, he and I were watching a documentary on the possible causes for the extinction of the dinosaurs. The show talked the devastating impact of the meteor that created the Chicxulub (CHEEK-sha-loob) crater. Which is 110mi. (180ki.) in diameter. The impact was 2 million times greater than the most explosive man made device. That’s mind boggling.

This made me wonder: Can a human generate that type of impact? Of course not. Nevertheless, your ideas and actions can still have a timeless impact on the world.

The impact you have on the lives of others is the true measuring stick for what you do with your life. It could be positive impact, a negative impact, or no impact.

[VIDEO] Duncan Nugget® #307: Devastated, But Not Defeated

I was recently saw someone’s status on Facebook: “Feeling a little bit defeated.”

I immediately responded with Duncan Nugget #307:

You are too strong to be defeated. Are you experiencing a temporary setback? Maybe. Can you feel the frustration? Sure.

But defeated? Never.

Life may leave you devastated, but you are never defeated.

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[VIDEO] Duncan Nugget® #223: Under Your Control?

After a setback, many people spend too much time agonizing over things they have little or no control over. So, when you are preparing for your next opportunity, do a little inventory.

Identify what is and isn’t under your control.

Make a list of everything that must happen in order for your opportunity to be a successful endeavor. Next, label each item on your list as “under your control” or “not under your control.”

Now, take action on what’s under your control.

For example, being well prepared for an interview is under your control. Being the most qualified and experienced person for the job isn’t under your control. Chances are, you cannot do anything about who else is being interviewed for the position.

WARNING: Be careful of passing the buck or playing the blame game.

[VIDEO] Duncan Nugget® #53: Soft Skills Make All The Difference

Hard skills—technical skills—might get you an interview. They could land you a job. They might even get you some business.

But hard skills combined with great soft skills such as: communication skills, leadership skills, teamwork, Emotional Intelligence, self-motivation, customer service, and conflict resolution—will put you in an entirely different league.

Soft skills will get you the job and the promotion. Soft skills will get you the business and a relationship that keeps them coming back.

So, read a book, take a class (like public speaking), or join an organization. Better yet do all three.

Work on your soft skills. They make all the difference.

[VIDEO] Duncan Nugget® #221: Never Convict An Innocent Person

Setbacks and failure can leave a person wallowing in the mud of past misery. Unless you are a cute, little piggy you have no business splashing around in the mud!

Humans are the only creatures on this planet that willingly live the same misery over and over again.

You imagine it. You experience it. You remember it.

Too many people continuously convict themselves for past mistakes and mishaps. It makes no sense to constantly punish yourself in the present for an honest mistake you made in the past

“I made an honest mistake. Now I know better, so I’ll do better.”

If that statement is true for you, then you need to give yourself a pardon. Otherwise, you’re convicting the new and improved you (an innocent person) for something that the old you did.

Never convict an innocent person.