Q & A: Scared For My Daughter. Any Suggestions?

Q: Hi Al, I have a 20 y/o daughter who has gone through  two semesters at school. Two different schools. She doesn’t believe school is for her so she wanted to join the marines but her test score wasn’t high enough. We live in [a very small town] and jobs are hard to come by here. I realize she’s not alone in her quest for employment but I don’t know how to help her. I am worried and scared for her. Anything you can suggest will be greatly appreciated. —Phyllis F.

5 Steps For Dealing With Worry

NOTE: Be sure to answer the discussion questions at the end of this article.

After a seminar one day, I was talking to a young lady who spends too much time worrying. She was worried about getting off to a great start that semester. She was worried about getting into graduate school. She was worried about how she was going to do on her finals.

Really?!

She hadn’t even been to a class yet!

She and I sat down for about 20 minutes and worked on getting the “worry weeds” out of her head. Here’s a snapshot of what we talked about.

[POSTER] Duncan Nugget® #257: Giving Up vs. Getting Up

Sometimes, when it seems like you’re giving up…
You are really GETTING up and moving on.

Million-Dollar Question:
Is it time to walk away or try harder?

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ACTION STEPS/DISCUSSION QUESTIONS

[VIDEO] Duncan Nugget® #37: A Step Towards Mastering Your Emotions

Your limbic system is the part of your brain that produces emotions. Did you know it initially responds to mental and emotional threats exactly like it does to physical threats?

If your character or beliefs are attacked or if you feel disrespected or embarrassed, what happens? Your natural defense mechanism kicks in. It’s called flight-or-fight response.Your body says, “it’s time to run or rumble.” You think things like, “let me get out of here or I’m going hurt somebody.” That’s why mastering your emotions is challenging.

But…

You can take a step towards mastering your emotions by training yourself to effectively deal with mental and emotional threats.

It starts with awareness. Then you diligently work on improving your Emotional Intelligence, communication, and conflict resolution skills.

Million-Dollar Question:
What are you willing to do to take a step towards
mastering your emotions.

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ADDITIONAL READING AND DISCUSSION QUESTIONS

[POSTER] Duncan Nugget® #24: Your Comfort Zone

One way or another, you end up in your comfort zone.

[VIDEO] Duncan Nugget® #19: The Gap Between What You Know And What You Do

Knowledge is power.

That’s one of the biggest lies, myths, and misconceptions about success. At best, that statement is only halfway true because it’s only half of the statement.

Knowledge is power IF…you use it.

I’ve read about this concept in literally hundreds of personal and professional development books. I’ve listened to it in hundreds of audio programs. So, it’s not like this is some big secret or some new concept. But… a lot of people just don’t get it.

The gap between what you know and what you do is crucial to your success. Most people aren’t unsuccessful in life because they don’t know what to do. They are unsuccessful because they don’t DO what they know how to do.

Million-Dollar Question:
What knowledge do you have
parked inside you that you could be using
to drive yourself to greater success?

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DISCUSSION QUESTIONS

[VIDEO+ACTIVITY] Duncan Nugget® #256: Feeding Your Willpower

A judge, a criminologist, and a sociologist were on a parole board. In case you don’t know, a parole board decides whether or not a prisoner gets parole—time off of a prison sentence for good behavior.

Researchers studied this parole board during its day-long sessions and found out that prisoners who were seen right after lunch or a snack break had a 60% chance of getting parole. Prisoners who were seen right before lunch or a break only had a 20% chance of getting parole.

Why?!

It’s because willpower requires energy. The food you eat is turned into glucose-a pure, simple sugar that’s energy for your body.

If you have to take an exam, work on a big project, or make a tough decision—like deciding whether or not to release a criminal—feed your willpower. It’ll help you have more self-control and make better decisions.

Million-Dollar Question:
Have you been properly feeding your willpower?

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ACTIVITY AND DISCUSSION QUESTIONS