Duncan Nugget® #92: Real Education

Real education is about more than cramming knowledge into a person’s head. (That includes yours.) 

Duncan Nugget® #81: The Root of Fear

Many times, what you think you’re afraid of is just a cover-up for a deeper fear.

Let me show you what I mean.

People say they are afraid of public speaking, but a lot of times, what they are really afraid of is embarrassment, ridicule, and failure.

People say they’re afraid of commitment, but what they are really afraid of is being hurt or feeling boxed in.

People say they’re afraid of all kinds of things, but when you dig a little deeper the true source of their fear becomes apparent. The good thing about getting down to the root of your fear is that you can finally figure out how to conquer it.

Million-Dollar Question: 
What are you going to find the REAL source of your fear and then conquer it?

Duncan Nugget® #98: Mental Game. Money Game.

If your mental game isn’t right, your money game will never be right.

Think about that.

Money tends to help you become more of what you are and do more of what you are already doing.

The idiot becomes an idiot with money. Partying becomes more partying. Greedy becomes greedier.

The giver gives more. The smart investor invests more. The helpful person becomes more helpful.  Even when it seems like money has changed a person, most of the time it hasn’t. It has simply revealed who he or she really is.

So, while you’re working on improving your bank account, be sure to keep working on YOURSELF.

Million-Dollar Question: 
Are you working on your mental game 
as much as your money game?

[VIDEO] Duncan Nugget® #350: What You Don’t Want

Your mind cannot directly process a negative.

When told not to do something, your mind has to picture doing it first before it can process not doing it. I’ll prove it to you.

Don’t think about your favorite color.

Don’t think about relaxing on the beach on a perfect day.

Don’t think about a pink elephant with blue polka dots and green wings.

Do you see what just happened? Even if it was only for a split second, you thought about each of those things because your mind processes information using images.

Since your unconscious mind does not distinguish between reality and imagination, if you are thinking “I don’t want to fail this test” then you briefly experience failing the test. Not cool.

Work on telling yourself (and other people) what you DO want.

Million-Dollar Question:
Are you focused on what you don’t want or what you DO want?

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ACTION STEPS & DISCUSSION QUESTIONS

1. “I don’t want to fail this test” is an example of a goal that is focused on what you don’t want. Write this goal in positive terms so that it is focused on what you do want.

2. Write down 3 of your goals. Look carefully at the language you used to write them. Are you using positive or negative language? If any of your goals are written in negative terms, rewrite them in positive language that focuses on what you want.

3. What are some of the reasons and/or excuses that cause many people focus on what they don’t want? How do you or will you keep those reasons/excuses from having the same effect on you?

Mentoring

Hey! Remember…January is National Mentoring Month

Duncan Nugget® #59: From Wanting to Having

People spend a good deal of time—especially around the beginning of a new year—writing and talking about what they want. I guess that’s called goal-setting (wanting), but it’s not goal achievement (having).

What’s the difference between wanting and having?

The Difference Between Quitting and Giving Up

I recently talked to someone who had just quit her unfulfilling, dead-end job. She said to me, “Al, I am really upset. I feel bad. I have never quit on anything before.”

I felt her pain. I could feel where she was coming from. But two minutes after she said that, she was feeling a lot better.

Why? What happened? I helped to her understand the difference between quitting and giving up.

“Quitters never win.”

Garbage.

Sometimes quitters do win. Quit smoking? You win. Quit being lazy? You win. Quit blaming others for your mess? You win.

Quit a dead-end job and you will definitely win.

Some people quit because they give up. Some people quit in order to move up.

Million-Dollar Question: 
Are you giving up or moving up?